Book Review: Before I Forget by Tory Henwood Hoen @toryhenwoodhoen @stmartinspress

Before I Forget
by Tory Henwood Hoen

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“A tender, funny portrait of love in its myriad forms.” —Mikki Brammer, bestselling author of The Collected Regrets of Clover


A funny, heartfelt, late coming-of-age story that examines the role of memory in holding us back—and in moving us forward—for fans of The Collected Regrets of Clover and Maame.
Call it inertia. Call it a quarter-life crisis. Whatever you call it, Cricket Campbell is stuck. Despite working at a zeitgeisty wellness company, the 26-year-old feels anything but well. Still adrift after a tragedy that upended her world a decade ago, she has entered early adulthood under the weight of a new her father’s Alzheimer’s diagnosis.

When Cricket’s older sister Nina announces it is time to move Arthur from his beloved Adirondack lake house into a memory-care facility, Cricket has a better idea. In returning home to become her father’s caretaker, she hopes to repair their strained relationship and shake herself out of her perma-funk. But even deeply familiar places can hold surprises.

As Cricket settles back into the family house at Catwood Pond—a place she once loved, but hasn’t visited since she was a teenager—she discovers that her father possesses a rare as he loses his grasp of the past, he is increasingly able to predict the future. Before long, Arthur cements his reputation as an unlikely oracle, but for Cricket, believing in her father’s prophecies might also mean facing the most painful parts of her history. As she begins to remember who she once was, she uncovers a vital the path forward often starts by going back.

With laugh-out-loud humor and profound grace, Before I Forget explores the nuances of family, the complexities of memory, and how sometimes, the people we know the best are the ones who surprise us the most.

My Rating:

Favorite Quote:

 

Everyone’s life looks fun on social media; that’s the sorcery of it. Your soul may be slowly decaying, but there’s a filter for that.

I like my friends, and we keep each other entertained. But lately, I feel like more of a lone wolf— or maybe I’m just running with the wrong pack.

I roll down the windows to let in the last gasp of summer. There is a particular richness to early September, when the sunlight is broad and lazy.

Time is a vapor, impossible to measure.

They say that hearing is the last sense to go. I want to say something profound before it’s too late, but there is no script for this moment. All I can think to say is, “Thank you,” so I say it over and over. Thank you. Thank you. “Thank you for loving me, Dad,” I say one last time. “I know you don’t remember me, but I remember you. I always will.”

It just wasn’t what I expected— marriage, motherhood. And at some point, I realized I only had one life. So why shouldn’t it be the one I actually want?

Though I have said it many times, only now do I fully believe it to be true: a good oracle shows you what you already know.

My Review:

 

This emotive tale was stunningly perceptive and squeezed my cold heart, put hot rocks in my throat, and stung my eyes on more than one occasion. Tory Henwood Hoen has mad skills and serious word voodoo. I fell into a poignant and cunningly created vortex and remained engaged, and on the hook, despite the somewhat disconcerting tightening I occasionally noted in my chest. She achieved an impossibly delicate balance between amusing wry wit and thought-provoking insights that slowed my reading to consider and savor. Her well-crafted characters were remarkably human, realistically flawed, and drew me in like a magnet. I covet her skills and am now a devoted acolyte.

 

 

I grew up in Connecticut, graduated from Brown University, spent a few years becoming feral in Paris, and then spent 15 years in New York City. I now live in Vermont with my daughter and two cats, and I’m an “SMBC” (solo mother by choice).

The Arc (February 2022) was my debut novel. My second, Before I Forget (December 2025), was a December 2025 “Book of the Month” Selection, as well as the Reader’s Digest Book Club Pick for December 2025.

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